How to Speak to Your Boss with Confidence

In the elevator, in the kitchen at lunch time near the coffee machine… there are plenty of moments when you might cross paths with your boss or other senior leaders in your organisation. If you have difficulties starting a conversation, don’t worry; we’ve got you covered with some handy topics to help you to handle speaking to your boss with confidence.

Getting rid of the nerves

For a variety of reasons, many people do get nervous when around their boss or business leaders.  Instead of engaging in a conversation, we get nervous, start babbling, and often don’t know what to say. So, how can you speak to your boss with confidence without acting weirdly?

It is important to understand that these nerves are due to the feeling of hierarchy. But this hierarchy is only at work – it’s not personal, so there’s no need to feel any kind of inferiority in this sense. On the other hand, they have hired you for some reason, so your position in the company is just as valuable. Thinking about this will help you to position yourself so you can speak with confidence, professionalism, and respect.

Conversation topics with your boss should avoid any topic related to politics, religion, or criticism of others. When you come across him/her, smile and ask about their day. Talking about literature, movies, music, and sports (if they are not topics likely to cause conflict) is better than talking about time. These types of conversations are neutral and will give you fresh topics to come back to in the future.

Finally, avoid joking around and be mindful of your body language. Crossing your arms or avoiding eye contact does not come across as confident and may make you look unfriendly. Instead smile, show your hands when you talk, maintain eye contact, and show receptiveness when listening.

Good leaders need emotional intelligence

In a recent survey by The Adecco Group, it was discovered that 74% of employees say it is important for managers to have a leadership style focused on empathy and a supportive attitude.

Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a skill that is imperative for leaders to obtain. Well-honed communication skills and emotional intelligence are key to building a great culture and harmonious high performing teams. To get the best out of your people, your leadership skills need to encompass the right soft skills for the role as well.

Talking with our bosses and managers can be a challenge, whether we are new to the company or have already spent time there. But, like everything, it’s a matter of practice. Armed with these tips, you will be able to speak to your boss with confidence and create space for enjoyable conversations, should you ever find yourselves together in the elevator.